12 Ways to find true love

 12 Ways to find true love

Some of us become despondent, pessimistic, and insecure because of love. Some of us are really good at finding love. He finds wives who will make them happy, keeps their relationships fresh and successfully passes the test of time. They are people who have mastered the rules of love. So how do they achieve this? Author Richard Templar describes the ways to find love in ‘The Rules of Love', which is available for sale by Optimist Publications. Here are the 12 golden rules that we have compiled for you from the book...

1- BE YOURSELF

When we meet someone we really like, we want to create a brand new person of ourselves or try to become the person he is looking for. If we wanted, we could look really deep, and take on a strong, mysterious air. But spending our whole life hiding behind a made-up personality and trying to look like ‘me’ makes us tired. When we are resolved, we cause him to move away from us in frustration. In other words, be you, even at the cost of losing, and look like you are to him. Perhaps this is the most correct and important item among relationship tactics: Be you, look like you are to him, even at the cost of losing Dec. Who knows; maybe he will like you better this way... In any case, true love should be based on your real personality. If your reality is destroyed, how is it possible for it to be 'true love'?

2- DON'T START A NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCAR

If your last relationship has worn you down emotionally, repair this damage before setting sail for a new love. Otherwise, you will not be able to show your real face to the person in front of you, and you will not be able to focus on him because your attention will still be on yourself. It's best to spend time with your family and friends instead of a new love while your wounds heal. 

3- OVERCOME YOUR FEAR OF BEING ALONE

Many women rush from relationship to relationship just to avoid being alone. However, facing the fear of being alone and giving a chance to relationships that you feel are only right prevents you from being worn down by unnecessary experiences and reduces your self-esteem. If a relationship is making you unhappy, it's always better to end it and be alone. Remember, true love is not to be alone but to be whole.

4- GETTING TO KNOW THE RIGHT PERSON

Richard Templar says that when most women first see someone, they instinctively know if he is right or not. But there are no exceptions either. According to another theory, you can tell if your partner is the right person only on the wedding day. The author says that many divorced friends of hers doubt whether she did it right on the wedding day. 

5- CHOOSE THE MAN WHO MAKES YOU LAUGH 

According to Richard Templar, we can be happy with people who make us laugh the most.

6- LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

If you constantly come across characters that you don't match, you may have a share in this. Look at who you are going on the road with more objective eyes! Otherwise, you may be trapped in a chain of failed relationships for a lifetime. 

7- DON'T TRY TO CHANGE IT 

Either accept your partner as he is or let him go while the path is close. You can't dissuade people from being irresponsible or football crazy, from workaholism or shyness.

8- RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT ABOUT SEX 

Good sex is a wonderful thing. And if there is no sexual attraction Decoupled at the beginning, the relationship will not have much chance. In fact, the most prominent relationship tactics are perhaps the ones related to sex. Dec. But the best relationships last a lifetime, and your libido may not last that long. If your relationship is based only on sex, you may find yourself in a difficult situation later when you have to deal with children, money issues, aging parents, and career problems. The most important thing for a relationship, more than sex, is to have a mortar that will keep it intact for good or bad.

9- DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL? 

Not everyone can be a very good lover. If your lover quickly stopped buying you flowers in the first months of the relationship and almost never called you, don't torment yourself, send her away.

10- DON'T PLAY GAMES 

If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Be you, don't play games with your partner. Do not say, ”Let's see if he will hit on other women while I'm away" and send a friend to him. Don't try to check if he forgot your birthday or not. You looked, as if he will forget, remind him of your birthday soon. Because a man who realizes that he is being played by himself can get cold feet from a relationship. Also, remember, true love is based on one hundred percent trust.

11- FACE YOUR EMOTIONS 

You have a great time with him; you have common interests, he listens to you and makes you laugh. Moreover, you are sure that he loves. But despite your efforts, you can't love him. Then be cruel and do a favor and end the relationship. You can't create true Love by forcing yourself, it comes out on its own.

12- COMMON GOALS

You think he's the one you're looking for, and everything's fine. Or at least it seems so. Do you know enough about the future plans? Richard Templar shares the story of a friend who found out that his wife wanted to live in the south after getting married and having children. It is useful to talk in detail without experiencing such surprises.