According to psychological science 9 proofs that you are in love

 According to psychological science, 9 proofs that you are in love

If you find yourself giving up your usual activities or feeling unusually optimistic, you may have fallen in love...

Falling in love is one of the strangest but most wonderful things a person can experience. And although love is different for everyone, there are some common thoughts and feelings that can help a person understand that he is in love.

You may be experiencing one of the obvious signs, such as not being able to think about anyone other than that person, or even about anything else; but the signs may also be more hidden.

Regardless, there is no doubt that falling in love in the face of today's labyrinthine friendship table is quite complicated. To make things a little easier, The Independent spoke to psychologists to find out some of the symptoms that clearly indicate that you are in love.

1. You can't take your eyes off him

This is one of the classic symptoms of falling in love: you lose yourself in the eyes of your loved one. According to psychological consultant Marc Hekster, this is one of the most obvious proofs of love. Heckster "Why wouldn't you want to look into the eyes of someone you think is the most beautiful and attractive person in your world?" he says.

The thing is, when you look at someone you love, it's not just their appearance that catches your eye. When you look at her, you can see an entire future that you will spend together, or at least, you can imagine it.

"You must be looking for something," Hekster says.

If you have seen how a mother lovingly looks at her newborn baby or child, you will understand some of the way to stare and constantly look at the object of love.

2. You give up your usual activities

Relationship psychologist Madeleine Mason Roantree explains this situation as follows: If you enjoy spending time with someone, the reward system in your brain increases your enthusiasm in a way that makes you want to spend "more" time this way. "You start to want him with you," she adds.

You may also start thinking about ways to be close to him, including doing things that he is interested in in the hope that it strengthens the bond that is just sprouting between you. Dec.

"For example," says Mason Roantree, "even though you hate salsa, you may find yourself enrolled in a salsa course, even if the person you love is not on that course, because that way you feel closer to him Tuesday."

This also gives you a different topic to talk to him about. Moreover, there may be a possible way to seduce him to get closer to you.

3. You don't mind him doing something repulsive

"The power of love, especially new love, is primitive, " Hekster says.

This means that you don't care when the person you're in love with does something that you might perceive as repulsive, whether it's clutter or not lowering the toilet lid. In fact, you may not even notice it.

"Love can be extremely powerful and can be associated with getting rid of everything that inhibits you, " Hekster adds.

Think about parents who are in love with their babies and how they always adopt to love their children, whether they are dirty or prevent them from sleeping.

4. Time flies away when we're together

Psychologist Daria Kuss says that if you are in love with someone, time will probably pass quickly when you are with him.

This is usually the case when we are doing something we like. Spending time with the person you love is not much different either.

"When you're with him, you're in a flow, so you don't realize that the clock is ticking when you're spending time together," adds Kuss.

5. He never makes mistakes

Hekster says that being in love can distort our perception of reality a little.

"If you are deeply in love with someone, it is likely that your perception of who he is and how he presents himself is a little unreal, " Hekster adds.

So even if you are inclined to criticize something that someone else says or does, if the person who says or does it is your partner, you can even love him for it, because in your eyes he will never make mistakes.

Hekster “Even if he wears socks in sandals. Isn't that what makes them so beautiful?!" he adds.

“When you're in love, you only see an unrivaled version of beauty. The point where all your feelings are focused is the idealized state of that person."

6. You feel unusually optimistic

Mason Roantree says that when you're in love, everything else in your life can also seem strangely wonderful.

"You may feel a little more energetic for no apparent reason," he adds.

“This is the result of all those "dopamine bursts" that you get because you think about your partner, are with him or doing something that reminds you of him.

Positive expectations help reduce stress. Therefore, the expectation of being with your partner also strengthens your mental health and makes you feel better about life.

7. You want to touch her and kiss her

This may also seem quite obvious. But the reason why you want to touch and kiss the person you are in love with is much deeper than you think.

When you touch the person you are in love with, the "love hormone" oxytocin is released.

"This makes you happy and strengthens the bond between you and your partner, " says Kuss. Dec.

8. You're always thinking about him

"Being in love means surrendering our feelings to someone else," Hekster says.

Hekster says that in this state of surrender, we kind of unite with that person and fully engage our minds with him, so much so that this preoccupation reaches the point where they dominate our thoughts.

Again, this is partly due to the oxytocin secreted in the brain during sex.

"This can affect emotions, cognition and social bonding, " adds Hekster.

All of these have a share in making you feel close to someone and nurturing love.

9. You want his happiness

Hekster says that when you fall in love with someone, you may feel more altruistic than usual. Explaining that sacrifice can be a sign of deeper and longer-lasting love, Hekster says, "It symbolizes more mature forms of love," and adds:

You don't want happiness for yourself alone. You want the other person to be happy at the same rate as you.

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